It’s a New Year…so get over it!

It’s a New Year…so get over it!

This isn’t at all what I had planned to write about. My intention was to end the year in 2013 thanking the many people who have supported me and this blog especially so in the latter part of the year. You are hardly forgotten! Alas, my plans were for naught. Christmas was wonderful!

Ringing in the New Year…not so much.

I slept through the beginning of 2014 as best I could huddled down in my covers and fighting off a very nasty bug. I thought I had been oh so careful, washing my hands at least twenty times a day (I am not exaggerating), Lysol, Sani-wipes, trying not to inhale other people’s germs, taking vitamins and getting plenty of rest. Yet, it came down to taking my own advice. “You aren’t going to do much of anything until you get over it.”  I have said these very words to patients at least a hundred times.

Yes, I took all the proper OTC remedies, was seen by a nurse practitioner and given a good antibiotic to knock out my trifecta of bronchitis, sinusitis and possibly strep. Even with all of that, the body said NO! Not moving, doing or going a-n-y-w-h-e-r-e!

I had “plans” to hit the New Year’s Day sale of my favorite department store. Didn’t happen. So, as I lay in bed reminding myself that I was NOT dying, it only felt like it; I was praying and thinking how everything happens for my good. Maybe I spent enough money this holiday season and I didn’t need to go to the mall. Okay God, I’m stuck at home for my own good. I get it.

The next day, I’m still sick, actually sicker. I’m thinking to myself I’m doing everything I can to get better. I know what to do! “You are going to have to get over it before you do anything,” I hear God in my spirit.

But HE is not talking about my illness. God does work out all things for our good and He most definitely can use anything to get our attention.

You see, on Sunday the television preacher was preaching “get over it.” I listened to that sermon and thought it was good and very relevant.  Only days prior to that, I was speaking with my oldest son about making good choices and telling him not to make the same mistakes I had. In his teenage wisdom, this kid told me to “get over it.”

First of all, if one of my kids tells me to “get over it,” there is a huge problem. My first instinct was to look behind me and see exactly who he was talking to!

Cam said it so quickly and distinctly and then resumed his normal conversation I was left speechless. I knew it was God talking to me through my child. It was hardly the first time God has done that.

I heard the same exact words in less than a week and knew them to be true yet still a little something in me hesitated. I had no problem “getting over it,” but there have been times when I have circled back and found my “it.” Or, I worse, I allowed “it” to find me.

It may be a reference to something else, a subtle reminder or just being tired and annoyed as we all can be that allows my “it” to rear its ugly head. I have gotten over many more significant things in my life, matters of life and death but this one thing, somehow finds a way to grab my attention and my thoughts.

Unfortunately my thoughts can then morph into regret which then can become resentment and consequently eat away into the forgiveness I thought I had given.

I did pray for revelation while I was sick. And boy did I get it!

I post this because God basically told me the things I want to do, places I want to go and dreams I want to see realized ain’t happening (and yes I do mean ain’t) until I get over “it” for good!

I suspect that most of us have some “it” that may be holding us back from God’s very best in our lives.

When Abraham’s nephew Lot took the best of the land that was divided between them Abraham got over it. Abraham knew that whatever he had with God was so much more than anything Lot could ever take from him.

We would all do well to remember this same thing as we begin 2014. Whatever we may have lost, whatever regrets we have, or mistakes we have made are insignificant compared to the power of our God. In our weakness, He is strong.

Leave your past exactly where it belongs and concentrate on what God can do now. God has plans for all of us if only we would trust Him and truly “get over” the things, thoughts, regrets and mistakes that can hold us hostage and keep us from achieving our very best this year.

Have a Very Blessed 2014!

“Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead,

I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

Therefore let us, as many as are mature, have this mind; and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal even this to you.” Philippians 3:13-15 NKJV

By Lilka Finley Raphael

Author, Editor, Gardner, Photographer, Pharmacist


  1. Lilka, I continue to be inspired by the wisdom God bestows upon you. I can only imagine what your immediate thoughts were when Cam told you “to get over it.” After reading this entire post, I know for a fact that it wasn’t Cam talking at all but as you said, God talking through him and the Holy Spirit touching your heart so that you received the message as God intended. And yes, in this year of 2014, we must all get over those things that are behind and through faith, look forward to every day that we are blessed to see. God is working with me to be positive and grateful for ALL things. Continue to allow God to speak through you in your postings for it is truly a blessing to me. I Love You Little Sister!


    1. Oh, I’m sure you CAN imagine 🙂

      I am looking ahead to great things, blessings large and small in 2014! I am trying really, really hard to submit to God’s will and not allow my own ideas for my life to hinder His plans. I am trying to make myself avaiABLE for God to do a good thing in and through me.

      Continue with the prayers. They Work!

      I love you!


  2. Hope you are fully recovered Lilka, so sorry to hear you haven’t been well. How God speaks to us through these times, when we turn to Him, never fails to amaze me, as he spoke to you. This message resonates with me so much. I have so much swirling around my head and heart right now that I am finding it difficult to get it all ‘out there’ so thank you for all you share here dear friend. 2014 has to be better 🙂


    1. 2014 is going to be a good year for us! I am of a mindset to think FORWARD and focus on the positive (even when I don’t feel like it). I’ve let too many negative things have a hold on me for too long.

      We are to encourage one another! Things WILL calm down for you and some things will become crystal clear. It is up to us move forward from that point with the revelation that God gives us 🙂

      Be Blessed!


  3. Wow! This really spoke to me. I’ve been really frustrated about my future even my present and have been praying for vision and purpose. It’s like I know that He is saying the same thing to me. Until I let go of all the junk from my past (the “it”) I’m not going to get anymore. I just have to get over it. Reminds me of an Eagles song 🙂 My daughter (adult) and I were addressing what I suppose were some unrealistic expectations I was having re holidays and family, etc. Then right out of her beautiful little mouth came “Mom, you just have to suck it up.” I was appalled to say the least but it didn’t take me too long to realize what she was saying was true. I just wish it were said a bit more “delicately” but if it had been I probably wouldn’t have heard it 🙂 Didn’t mean to comment so much but I am home with a cold and bad weather so i can’t get out and this is what He has been saying to me too 🙂 Have a blessed 2014 as you let go of the old and grab on to the new!


    1. I never mind the long comments, any comments are always welcome.

      I’m glad it spoke to you. I was “preaching” to myself as I wrote this. God will use our children (and their not so tactful words) to get our attention.

      I hope you feel better and get over your cold quickly. Don’t let it morph into something else worse. I too, am hunkered down. It is going to be 5!! degrees here in Atlanta on Tuesday.

      Have a wonderful and blessed new year as we both let go of our “its” and walk into God’s blessing in 2014.

      Thanks so much for taking the time to stop by! 🙂


  4. You have a good point. The best way to get over an illness like the flu is to surrender and rest up. Hope you feel better very soon!


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